More drama

This week we have been getting used to the idea that it will be a while before Vivine comes home. There was an appointment at the U.S. Embassy on our case this week, and while it didn't go badly, it didn't go well enough for us to get a quick pass home. It will take at least another month, but probably longer.

We need lots of encouragement and positivity right now. Sometimes when we tell people about the delays in the process, they decide to express anger, sadness or frustration to us. They say things like, "Why is it taking so long? Don't they want these children to have happy homes? That is just wrong!" While it's kind of nice to know that people have sympathy for our situation, it puts us in a very uncomfortable position. We feel like we have to justify this thing that is causing us so much pain or even comfort someone else for our sorrows. A co-worker yesterday said the perfect thing when I told her what was going on with the adoption: "Well, it doesn't mean she's not coming home, it just means it's going to take a little longer. But she IS coming home." Yeah! Her faith gave me strength, instead of dragging me down even further.

So, we have to wait a little longer. Fortunately, we are pretty dang good at it. We are in the very slow process of making over the kitchen. We're doing things that parents with young children can't do - watching lots of rated-R movies, making late-night trips to Dairy Queen and cursing loudly whenever we feel like it. Earlier this week we went to the Rams-Chiefs game, and today we're going to the Mizzou-Illinois game. PC and I are very much in love, even through all the adoption drama, and I think we have it about as good as a married couple with no kids can have.